Happy Birthday, Mom

story time - 1960

I wrote this post one year ago today. Call it recycling ... but with a few edits I decided it's all worth repeating.

Today is my mom's 84th birthday. Born September 1, 1925, she died thirty years ago.

My mom had maybe the best sense of humor of anyone I've ever known. As a child, I loved to laugh with her. So I laugh a lot with my kids. I think people with no sense of humor are missing out.

Mom loved the unlovable, like the mentally disabled (and unpopular) girl she welcomed into our Girl Scout troop. So I try to be accepting of all people.

My mom knew without a doubt that God exists. She pointed this out to me when I was a teenager and questioning myself and the purpose of life. So I introduced my children to the creator of the universe.

My mom pretty much hated housecleaning. So I have followed suit.

Along the same lines, my mom secretly admired a relative she never met: "Aunt Betty," who was the scourge of the family for PLAYING THE PIANO DURING THE DAY INSTEAD OF DOING HER HOUSEWORK. So I look for fun pursuits in order to avoid housework.

My mom used to yell at us four kids. Unfortunately, I have yelled at my four kids, too. It usually didn't get the desired results.

One of my mom's favorite summer pastimes was taking us swimming at the town lake and "beach." So, I spent countless hours taking my kids swimming. (good for avoiding housework.)

She made the best southern fried chicken. I don't, but I'm sure I could make some since I spent many a dinner hour watching my mom fry chicken.

My mom embraced most new experiences with gusto: moving far away from her hometown, discovering the ocean, camping, road trips, hikes in the woods, welcoming new neighbors, ice skating and color TV. So I have tried to do the same because I think it's a good way to open kids' eyes and hearts to the world and people around them.

I'd say my mom was brave and I think I am, too, most of the time. I'd rather be a brave girl than a scared and cowardly girl.

Mom loved my dad. She found ways to express her lifelong commitment. So I learned what committed marriage meant, imperfect as it was.

My mom loved being a mom. I see this now but probably didn't then. Kids don't get that kind of stuff. Motherhood is the best job - and sometimes the worst - ever. And it's not even a job. It's like becoming a new person as you nuture new little persons.

Mom was excited about being a grandmother, but she didn't live long enough. Barring imminent catastrophe, it's looking like I will see grandmotherhood.

My mom didn't want a lot of stuff. Though she might have had some unrealized dreams, she was content with who, what and where she was. I strive for this, but don't always succeed.

I'm thinking of the best birthday gift I could give my mom and I've decided what she'd like. I will honor her legacy by loving life, my husband and children. And being content. Recognizing God is God. I think mom would like for me to forget the dog hair in the hall and instead walk the dog in the woods. To talk less and listen more. To read more books. She was a voracious reader.

She'd want me to love her grandchildren for her. So today, David, Dan, Mark, Katie, Jenny and Jill: know that I love you! Sometimes, the need to express this has unbearable urgency. I hope I've mothered - not smothered - you. Maybe, just maybe, God saved mom's unused love for me to pass on to you. So pardon me if I give too much.

And that's my happy birthday to mom.